22 September, 2014

Geet Salil - A musical journey in tribute to Salil Choudhury

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Geet Salil, a musical evening, was presented twice in as many weeks, to music lovers in HK.  The evenings were a tribute to Salil Chowdhury (better known as Salil Da), and the musical legacy  he has left behind.

This post should have been done earlier, but when one steps into the world of Salil Da’s music, nothing is ever so simple and straightforward.  His melodies, through the years, have echoed with many different emotions and served many different purposes.  Most of all, what one remembers the most about Salil Da’s compositions, is not just the the songs and the scores, but the impact that the music leaves on ones mind.  

His was never the kind of music one could hear and then let lapse into the unconscious mind.  Even if not in the forefront of consciousness, his melodies (as evidenced by the Geet Salil evening) stay put in the sub conscious mind.  There they stay, simmering, smouldering just beneath the surface, waiting for that one tiny cinder to set a chain of memories ablaze with a whole range of emotions – love, hope, anger, despair, sheer joy – his melodies encompass all these and much more.

Thus, this post could never have been easy – given the gamut, the array it needs to cover.  Also, had I just penned a post on the Geet Salil evening without setting the stage with the elan and flair of Salil Da and his compositions, it would be grossly unfair to the Tharangini team who must have worked so hard over the past many months, towards producing this musical evening, this tuneful, melodic tribute to Salil Da. 

Salil Chowdhury has always been known for his versatility, a distinct blending of Eastern and Western music traditions.  He is quoted to have said once “I want to create a style that transcends borders – a genre which is emphatic and polished, but never predictable” and through his lifetime of composing music, that’s exactly what he did.

I remember listening to many songs through my growing up years, music for which had been rendered so artfully by Salil Da.  The one thing that always stood out about his music was the wide variety that he composed.  His music was never predictable – one never knew what to expect.  In being able to do that in the 1960s and 70s, without any digital components, is nothing short of sheer magic in itself.  Some scores, as soft as lullabies crooned to put babies to sleep while others were forceful enough to send awareness ripping through the conscious mind, searing itself on people’s psyches.

Jaagte Raho was one such movie.  That evening, when Hrishikesh Joshi started the opening notes to the song “Jaago Mohan Pyaare” from the said movie, I could feel the goosebumps.  As his voice echoed through the hall, forceful yet not a note out of sync, it made images float across the canvas of my mind.   Raj Kapoor’s body doubled over on the floor with despair written large all over his face and the little child who ‘awakes’ in him a sentiment of hope, infuses in him a sense of purpose.  I could almost visualise Nargis with that faint hint of a Mona Lisa smile.  This number made me reel, it was vigorous, it was dynamic and it was powerful – all the elements that I’m sure Salil Da intended for it to be.

Another such number, soft yet equally forceful was Aye Mere Pyaare Watan from Kabuliwala.  One could almost sense the presence of Balraj Sahni who plays the Afghan in the movie and echoes his longing for his motherland in this particular song.  This song was soft on the senses but just as demanding as Jaago Mohan Pyaare on one’s emotions.  Therein lies the beauty of Salil Da’s music compositions and therein lay the passion amongst the Tharangini team members in delivering a tribute to the great music composer.

The numbers were skilfully mixed and matched through the evening and many of them stood out in their brilliance, weaving their musical magic on the audience.  I, for one, was hooked right from the first number and rather gladly gave myself over to the emotions that were flooding the mind, the sentiments that were flooding the senses.

Jaaneman Jaaneman from Choti Si Baat rendered beautifully and playfully by Kaustubh and Mugdha, a peppy number which flirted with the memories of ones youth, reminding one of a rather bashful Amol Palekar in his hey days.  Once again, this is but an indication of the wide repertoire that Salil Da had, when it came to composing music.

Krithika’s version of Rajnigandha Phool Tumhare was an unplugged one.  There are very few instances when I’m left totally speechless in any given situation and this was well and truly one of them.  She literally brought the roof down over this one.  The ease and the mastery that she exhibited over this number would have made Salil Da happy and I’m sure, wherever he was that evening, he was listening.

There were many numbers from Anand too.  How could there not be ?  A monumental movie and the remarkable trio in terms of music – Gulzar, Salil Chowdhury and Mukesh.  This is one movie I will never ever forget.  When those numbers were on – Jairam enthralling with Zindagi Kaisi Hai Paheli and Narayanmoorthy’s charming rendition of Kahin Door Jab Din Dhal Jaye and Maine Tere Liye Hi Saath Rang ke Sapne Chune, one could almost visualise Rajesh Khanna with that half smile, drawling “Babu Moshaaiii ….. arey oo babu moshaiiii”.  Then it was the turn of, the Mugdha – Krithika duo to enthral the audience with Na Jiya Lage Na in both, Bengali and Hindi.

Another remarkable feature of Salil Choudhury was the fact that he’d composed music for lyrics in many different languages.  Tharangini paid tribute to this facet of Salil Da with Suresh Kumar and Sudha Dilip rendering a couple of Malayalam songs which effortlessly transported one to God’s Own Country.

Mugdha, apart from rendering melodious tunes (both in Hindi and Bengali), also proved to be a treasure trove of information that she shared with the audience.  The mind boggles at the amount of research she must have undertaken, for those snippets of information that she kept feeding the audience, to provide a background on Salil Da’s life and her script, interwoven with the songs, gave people a very thorough picture of Salil Choudhury, his life and his journey in the world of music. The narration was all the more important to the uninitiated, like our kids, who could therefore relate to the music and melodies and enjoy the show.

Jairam absolutely astounded with a couple of numbers in Bengali – beautiful, delightful numbers in a language that is exquisite and sweet like the Rosgullas and Sondesh which Kolkota is famous for.

The child artistes who began the show with a Bengali song and absolutely amazed the audience with their fluidity in the language.  The diction was flawless and all of them looked completely at ease singing in a language that was not their mother tongue or one they do not use for communicating regularly.  Music indeed transcends languages and these little people, these talented children were ample proof.

The Geet Salil evening is one that will remain etched in memory for a long long time.  These numbers (among many others) were even more dear to my heart because during my growing up years, the only music I was supposed to be listening to, was Carnatic Classical music.  Hindi film music was usually scoffed at, by the elders in the family for whom the only music that was music, was Carnatic classical.  While I’ve been trained in Carnatic Classical music, my heart lay elsewhere.  Listening to Vividh Bharati around 11 am was something akin to playing truant for me and I was drawn into that world, I fell for it hook, line and sinker.  Listen to it, I used to, almost every day and I simply fell in love with the numbers from the 60s 70s and 80s.  For me, music was not and will never be measured in terms of whether they were songs from films or a proper classical concert or someone singing in a subway with a guitar in hand and a hat on the floor.

Music is music – something that you need to let wash over you.  Music is something that touches the very core in all things living.  Why just humans, even plants respond to music. It simply takes over ones senses, it mesmerizes, it tantalizes, it leaves one confounded with its sheer depth. Music has the capacity to make one laugh and forget all the problems and issues that life often presents, it also has the ability to make one cry in despair that is born out of the pain and melancholy intertwined in some numbers.  

If one were to narrow that essence of variability, diversity and assortment down to one person, it would be Salil Da.  The sheer complexity of his musical compositions prompted someone to say “Salil Da often crafts symphonies of four and a half minutes”.   It would not be wrong to say that he was an individual whose music was way ahead of its times.

I cannot even begin to imagine the sheer amount of effort and commitment that must have gone into the production of Geet Salil – starting with the budding concept, the follow up research, the practice and rehearsal sessions over the past many months.  Geet Salil did total justice in fusing his tunes and molding them in many different languages that evening.  The ultimate tribute to a master, they re-created that atmosphere that evening.  The ambiance, the mood, the feel, the tone, the way the numbers were rendered made the evening a transcendental one – taking the audience to heights hitherto unexperienced.  In doing that, they highlighted and brought to the fore once again, the creative genius of Salil Da and yet again, cemented the fact in the psyche of the audience that day that music knows no boundaries.

Anirudha Chatterjee described it brilliantly in his eulogy to Salil Da when he said “In an era when dancing means acrobatics and grace has come down to catwalks; when melody is sulking in the dark and music weighed in decibels, it needs more than a passing effort to feel the pulse of an artiste like Salil Choudhury”.

Tharangini, you guys did all that and much more to put together an evening like Geet Salil.  That was one beautiful musical rendezvous, a tryst which had so many hearts beating as one as Salil Da’s music worked its magic into hearts and minds and made inroads into the audience’s memories.

Take a bow, Jairam and Tharangini.

That was a true homage to a master musician – whose every song was an extremely colourful imagination at work, an imagination that knew no boundaries.


10 September, 2014

Middle Age Musings :-)))



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Thoughts do have this tendency to turn inwards more often, especially when one is in ones mid-forties.  I mean, forty plus years of life experiences have to provide for a rather myriad range of experiences – with all the goods the bads and the in betweens, all factored in and accounted for.  My thoughts too have been turning inward and of late, realisation is beginning to sink in more clearly than ever before.  The fact that there are so many things I should be thankful for.  If one were to do the Math, it puts me smack in the middle of Middle Age, starting today.  But like the saying goes “Growing Old is Mandatory, Growing Up is Optional”.  Ask the Nutty Siblings. They’d probably vouch for the fact that their mad mom is just as mad as ever – even as she starts the journey towards 45.    
Life has been an interesting equation so far and it continues to be so.  It has indeed been a very satisfactory sojourn with its veritable ups and downs, the plateaus and the highs, the mad moments and the eerily sane ones, the sweet and the bitter sweet.  Life has played its tricks with me at times, making things seem like an unending puzzle that just gets more and more complex just as one things one’s solved the mystery but on the other hand life has also handed me enough number of straight paths to send things whizzing on the fast lane, making it seem pretty much like riding an automobile at breakneck speeds on one of the freeways in the Land of Oz.  In its own inimitable way, life has indeed taught me much. 
As one grows older (see, I’m really trying to convince myself here), what I feel is a growing sense of self-awareness.   With an increasing sense of awareness, comes the need to change.  It could be a change in terms of attitude, change in terms of how we feel towards a particular situation or in a much broader sense, a change in perspective.  I find myself trying to look for the Dr.Jekyll side in people rather than the Mr.Hyde bit.  Well, it’s not particularly easy when you find the Mr.Hyde persona staring at you in the face and leering but yeah, it is a start towards trying to be less judgmental.  Strangely enough, this change in attitude is slowly starting to make a difference.  A freedom of choice, truth be told – to either feel more peaceful by focusing on the positives or get horribly worked up by focusing on the negatives.  That does however, in no way mean a certificate for people to try and smack me in the face (or wherever else, for that matter).  That just doesn’t cut it.  I still have way too much fire left in me to let stuff slide, beyond a point J.  Just saying.
People say maturity sets in with age.  Oh well !  I’m not so sure.  If maturity means not flying off the handle at the drop of a hat, yes, the years indeed seem to have mellowed me in that respect, somehow.  How and when it happened, I know not but it does take a lot more to get me all worked up, angry, screaming, foaming and frothing at the mouth and all that.  Guess it’s probably the senility setting in.  I mean, something probably makes me angry but I forget that I have to get angry.  Yeah maybe.  Well, now who says senility is bad huh ?  It’s working for me.  I ain’t complaining.  I would probably go as far as to say that a bit of mellowness has indeed infused itself into my spirit over the years and helped me metamorphose into a errr…. better person  (for lack of a better word).  Ask the immediate family – am sure they’ll vouch for it.  They wouldn’t dare defy that now, would they ???
Oddly enough, I do find little itsy bitsy things making me happier and bringing about a much deeper sense of satisfaction than the same things probably would have, say twenty years back.  Early today morning, as I sipped my coffee, I sighted the full moon (well it did look full to me – I wasn’t wearing my glasses) and it filled me with an inordinate sense of joy.  Yeah maybe I’m getting old but what the heck – if something like a full moon can fill me with a sense of joy and all that’s well with this world of ours, I’ll take it. 
Somewhere along the way, humility seems to have sneaked in and made itself a party of my psyche as well.  The younger generation might well confuse humility for timidity, just as I would have a couple of decades ago.  But like I said earlier, life has its own way of teaching you things.  For all you young ones out there, humility is nothing other than maintaining our own pride of what we are and what we’ve achieved in life – maintaining that sense of pride without the arrogance, conceit or a misplaced sense of superiority.  I know I know that’s one super confusing definition.  Well, it was meant to be.  So go ahead and chew on it.  You’ll figure it out by the time you reach the number I’m at, right now ;-).
If there is one thing I’ve always maintained, it was that I would age with grace.  I was never gung ho about fighting the ageing process.  Have never considered plastic surgery and won’t .  That said, a tattoo sure is on my wish list and I do hope to get that done soon.   Haven’t given much thought to the specifics though – I wouldn’t want something that starts out looking like a butterfly wing end up looking like a dinosaur’s wing.  Get what I’m saying ??
I notice new silvers in my hair almost every day (no – I don’t count them !) and I do carry the silvers in my hair and the laugh lines around my eyes, with pride.  Those wrinkles, those little crows feet that crinkle around my eyes when I laugh just serves as a reminder of how good life has been to me, for having given me the sheer luxury of laughter, for having given me countless opportunities to throw my head back and laugh.
The last time I’d been to the hairdresser a month or so back, he’d asked me if I wanted the greys in my hair, covered.  “I quite like my grey hairs” I remember saying to him and I think I scarred him for life.  I still remember that look of total shock when he heard me say that and I swear to god he actually took a couple of steps backward and squinted at me.  Either he thought I was stark, raving mad or he was just trying to make sure I wasn’t some alien in human garb.  Those silver strands in my hair, to me, are precious because they serve to remind me of the number of times I’ve worried about things – about the children, about the family, about the world in general.  They are worries that have stemmed out of love and caring.  So yes, every single time I look at the silvers in my hair, I choose to think of them as a gift that life has conferred on me – for having lived and loved.
There are some broad strokes to being in my mid-forties that others in the same age bracket would probably associate with and agree.  Things like being healthy, being fit take on a totally different connotation when one is in the throes of middle age, if I may say, than the casualness with which these things would have been dismissed in youth.  Good health and fitness are definitely appreciated as more than just a ‘given’, halfway through the forties. 
The older I grow (chronologically, of course not mentally) the more I realize how much more there is, to learn.  It just serves to deepen that feeling that I’ve always carried around as one of life’s mottoes “Learning is a lifelong process”.  Things can’t be farther than that, in terms of truth.  Youth does not let people easily admit that they don’t know something but with age, I find those barriers steadily breaking.  I have no qualms in admitting that I don’t know something and am totally comfortable learning and striving to find out more.  I just learnt whilst having a casual conversation with Pecan the other day, how little I actually know (or remember) about Indian history.  A decade back, I’d probably have been mortified.  Not really now.  If I don’t know something, I don’t know it.  When equations get simpler like that, it makes life a whole lot easier.  He’s taken on the role of a mini history teacher in my life and that’s working pretty good . 
Learning is indeed a continuous process, as evidenced by my attempts at learning to “let go”.  The Nutty Sibs are indeed growing up fast and every now and then, I have to curb that need to tell them what to do or what not to do.  It is a learning process for me to accept and act upon the fact that they can take care of themselves, to a reasonable extent now.  There is a little part of me that does acknowledge the fact that it is just a few more years before Macadamia and Pecan spread their wings and fly the nest.  I’m not at that level of readiness yet.  That’s going to take some more time to swallow and as of now, it has been filed away under “we’ll cross the bridge when we come to it”.
I have an absolutely beautiful, wonderful family that mean the world to me and then some.  I am fortunate enough to be in a profession I care deeply about.  Life has also brought me in touch with a whole load of friends in all nooks and crannies of this planet we call our home.  I’ve reconnected with a lot of old friends and family members over these past few years and it does leave me with a very warm, fuzzy feeling. 
So far, the forties have indeed been kind to me and couple of ladies I admire tremendously have reiterated time and again that the fifties are pretty much nirvana.  I know there is always that feeling of dread as one leaves one decade of life behind and enters another. 
To all the young ones out there who stare at the forties in trepidation, I speak from personal experience when I say “Don’t fear getting older – anticipate it, enjoy it !”  The view from up here is pretty much fabulous :-).

19 August, 2014

Napoleon Bonaparte - An essay by Abhay Venkitaraman

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Napoleon Bonaparte

Napoleon Bonaparte or Napoleon I was a Military and political leader in France in the early 18th Century. He became the King of France in 1804

Early life

Napoleon was born as Napoleone di Buonaparte on the French island of Corsica in 1769. The island was previously under the control of the Republic of Genoa, and Corsica came under French control a year before Napoleon's birth . Napoleon’s family were descendants of minor Italian nobility, and Napoleon's father was Corsica’s representative to the French Court. Napoleon had 7 siblings: an elder brother named Joseph and younger siblings named Lucien, Elisa, Louis, Pauline, Caroline and Jerome.

In 1779, Napoleon was enrolled in a school in Mainland France, and a few months later, Napoleon was admitted in a military academy in Brienne-le-Chateau. He completed his studies at the academy in 1784 and was admitted at another military school in Paris. He trained to become an artillery officer and one year later, he graduated.

Early Military Career

Napoleon became a second lieutenant in an artillery regiment. He served in the military until the French Revolution, when he took leave. Napoleon fought with Corsican Rebels in the Corsican Revolution and was a Lieutenant-Colonel in the Corsican Militia. When he fell out with the leader of the militia, he fled to the French Mainland.

After the French Revolution, a French city named Toulon rose against the Revolutionary Government. Toulon had been occupied by British troops. Napoleon was one of the leaders of the Siege of Toulon. Toulon was successfully retaken. Napoleon also suppressed a Royalist rebellion with a “Whiff of Grapeshot”. Napoleon became the Commander of the French forces in Italy in 1796. In the same year, Napoleon married Josephine de Beauharnais.


War of the First Coalition

At the same time, France was having a war with a number of states in Continental Europe which saw France as a threat. The war had started in 1792 when France declared war against Austria and Prussia. In 1797, Napoleon invaded Austria. This forced Austria to sue for peace. A French Invasion of Britain failed. The Treaty of Campo Formio was signed between Austria and France. Belgium was ceded to France and Austria recognized French control over the Rhineland and a large part of Italy. The Republic of Venice which Napoleon had invaded was partitioned between France and Austria. France remained at war with Great Britain. France had a number of satellite states in Germany and Italy.

Invasion of Egypt

In 1798, Napoleon captured the island of Malta and captured Egypt from the Ottoman Empire . There were a number of nationalist rebellions in Egypt, but these were suppressed by the French Administration. Artifacts like the Rosetta stone were discovered. But he was forced back to France by the British and the French Fleet was destroyed in the Battle of the Nile.

War of the Second Coalition

War with Continental Europe resumed in 1799 and in the same year, Napoleon overthrew the French directory and became First Consul of France. He reorganized the French Army. Anglo-Russian troops invaded Holland but the invading forces ended up surrendering. Meanwhile the Russian Forces under General Suvorov defeated the French in Italy. But Suvorov was ordered by the Russian Emperor to transfer his troops to Switzerland, where Suvorov’s troops came under the command of another general. The Russian Army was defeated at the Second Battle of Zurich. After the battle, Russia pulled out of the Second Coalition.

Peace in Europe

In 1801, the war ended and France and Great Britain signed the treaty of Amiens. Napoleon faced a slave rebellion in Haiti and ended up losing Haiti in 1803. In the same year, Napoleon sold the Louisiana Territory in North America to the United States.

War of the Third Coalition

In 1803, Britain declared war on France. In 1804, Napoleon proclaimed himself emperor, and due to Austrian and Russian threats, he launched an offensive on the Rhine, calling off an Invasion of Great Britain. In the Ulm Offensive, the French Army managed to surround the Austrian Army and was victorious He defeated the Russian and Austrian Armies at the Battle of Austerlitz. This ended the Third Coalition. The Holy Roman Empire was destroyed. France also gained territory. The Confederation of the Rhine was formed with Napoleon as its protector.

War of the Fourth Coalition

Napoleon’s empire gained even more territory after the War of the Fourth Coalition. France signed a treaty with Russia, dividing Europe between the two empires. France also signed a treaty with Prussia, stripping it of a lot of land. Napoleon placed puppet rulers on the thrones of German States. Napoleon also attempted to enforce a law called the Continental System in which a lot of countries in Continental Europe were forced to boycott British Goods in response to Britain’s naval blockade of France. But this encouraged British Traders to smuggle goods into Continental Europe, and Britain’s control of the seas helped to reduce the effect of the Continental System on Britain’s economy. The Continental System also hurt the economies of countries in Continental Europe.


War of the Fifth Coalition

In 1809, Austria broke its alliance with France, and war resumed. Napoleon suffered a defeat at the Battle of Aspern-Essling. The French then defeated the Austrians at Wagram. Austria then signed the Treaty of Schonbrunn. Britain also attempted to invade Holland, but the British troops caught a fever and many of them died. The British troops were forced to retreat. Napoleon also annexed the Papal States after the Church refused to adopt the Continental System.

Invasion of Russia

As relations between France and Russia soured, Napoleon made plans to invade Russia. Napoleon invaded Russia in June 1812. The invasion was catastrophic for France. The French Army was destroyed. Napoleon managed to capture Moscow, but he withdrew from Russia soon after that. The harsh Russian winter halted the French Army, and the Russians also gave stiff resistance. French morale was also low.

War of the Sixth Coalition

A 6th Coalition was formed. Napoleon suffered losses in Germany. At the same time, France was fighting a war in the Iberian Peninsula against Britain and Spanish Rebels. The war had started in 1807, when the old Spanish king was deposed by Napoleon and Napoleon put one of his brothers on the Spanish Throne. France lost power in the Iberian Peninsula in 1814. At the same time, coalition forces entered France and Paris fell.

Exile to Elba and Hundred Days

Napoleon abdicated and fled into exile on the island of Elba, and Louis XVIII was placed on the French Throne. Napoleon managed to return to the French Mainland and after Louis XVIII caught hold of this, he sent the 5th Regiment to arrest Napoleon and found him. Napoleon marched to within gunshot range and said “Here I am. Kill your emperor, if you wish.” The soldiers responded with Vive L’Empereur!” Louis XVIII fled and Napoleon retook the throne. This began a period known as the “Hundred Days.” Napoleon was defeated by British and Prussian forces at the Battle of Waterloo.As Coalition Forces came closer to Paris, Napoleon lost hope in retaining the French Throne, and placed his son on the French Throne(Napoleon's son would later be forced off the French Throne. Napoleon thought of going into exile in the United States, but all ports were blocked by the British. Napoleon surrendered on the British ship HMS Bellerophon 

Exile to St Helena and Death

Napoleon surrendered to the British and was exiled to the Atlantic island of St Helena. He lived at Longwood House. While in St Helena, Napoleon’s health rapidly declined, and he died in 1821.

Legacy

Napoleon has been remembered for the implementation of the Napoleonic Code, a civil code which is the basis of the laws of many countries in today’s world. He also made greater property rights, greater suffrage rights and better education for French citizens. But Napoleon was considered a tyrant by his opponents, and left France bankrupt at the end of the Napoleonic Wars.

In my opinion; Napoleon was one of the greatest leaders in history, a great man who revolutionised Europe, a man who had so much power and influence, but ended up dying in vain



"Great ambition is the passion of a great character.  Those endowed with it may perform very good or bad acts.  All depends on the principles which direct them." ~ Napoleon Bonaparte


 Sources :

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HMS_Bellerophon_(1786)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/French_invasion_of_Russia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleonic_Wars
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Waterloo





Start of school - A mom mopes and whines




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A month together we did have
T'was summer, school vacations, simply fab !
I didn’t realize time fly past

That one month, very long, did not last.

 

Finally dawned today morning
The start of a new school year for the Nutty Sibs, it did bring

There were up and out of bed very early
Of “unnnhhhh can we sleep some more ?”, there was no plea

 

A new beginning for them both, today
A graduation of sorts, shall we say

Macadamia starts Senior School today

And Pecan in Middle School, starts his foray.


I sit here right now, the house all quiet and silent
The usual ruckus that the Nutty Sibs usually make, is totally absent

During the holidays the house, with noise, was filled
as our conversations, laughs and arguments shrilled and spilled

 
Funny, now that I think of it in wonder
I’d rather prefer the house, audibly torn asunder

This silence and quiet, I realize with dismay
This “peace” is so not fun. Nay !

 
The feeling hit me today morning

As the beginning of their school year, it did bring
“What am I going to do all alone ?” I wondered

“You will have time to do your own stuff” a little voice inside me answered

 
That simply was not to be
For, to my spirit, they are indeed the keys

I’ll say it out loud here, despite the grins I’ll need to face
once both of them, in the noon, get back to home base.

“I miss them, I miss them, I miss them crazy
Their presence, their fights, their laughter and all that’s itsy bitsy”

 
The silly banter, the goof ups, when we bake together

Came back to me a while ago, as the muffin batter, I stirred
No voices piped up “are the muffins done yet ?”

As the temperature on the oven, I once again set.

 
I shall wait for the afternoon, when the Nutty Sibs get back
I shall wait for the afternoon when the house floods with noises

That noise, the little talks, the fights, they’re a root part of my life
Without all that noise, things actually seem rather strife.

 
I realize now that the tables have turned
Another one of life’s lessons, I just learned

Parents hold their children’s hands, when they’re little, for a while,
But their hearts they hold forever, as life progresses, mile after mile.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

12 August, 2014

The TamBrahm Series (Part 12) - The Naamakaranam or the Naming Ceremony


 
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(The TamBrahm series is a series of satirical posts on the customs and traditions which are a part of the TamBrahm community.  This post is Part 12 of the TamBrahm series.  If you haven't read any of the earlier 11 posts in this series, I am posting the link to Part 11, which has the link to Part 10 and so on.  Part 11 of the TamBrahm series was about the Kaapu and Thottil ceremonies (Protection and Cradle ceremonies) of a newborn baby.  The link to Part 11 can be found here.)
 
We left the previous post on a pretty high note – what with a boisterous Macadamia screaming her head off at the Thottil (cradle) ceremony. 
Well, us TamBrahms simply love to have ceremonies for anything and everything.  I personally think it is some sort of standing agreement between the TamBrahm families and the family priest because most of the ceremonies that involve priests in India now, are nothing but sponsorship elements for the priest community.  What better reason to keep having one ceremony after another, other than a newborn baby in the house. 
After the Kaapu and Thottil ceremonies are done and over with, TamBrahm families usually have the baby’s naming ceremony on the 11th day after birth.  Until then, the baby (in the olden days) does not officially have a name.  In the olden days, there have been many birth certificates issued with the words “Not Mentioned” or “Not Available” against the name column.  No, that is not the baby’s name.  That is just a stand-in of sorts until the official naming ceremony is done and over with.  Thank God for that though else there would be hordes of TamBrahms with names like Not Mentioned Ramachandran or Not Available Seetharaman or Do Not Know Venkatiswaran and N.A Saraswati and the like. 
In the days of yore, deciding on a name for the baby was no decision at all.  It was all planned out and ready even before the baby made its appearance into this world.  The firstborn son would be named after his paternal grandfather and the first born daughter after the paternal grandmother.  If there was a second born son or a second born daughter, they were named after the maternal grandfather and grandmother. I guess no one really gave it a thought as to the kind of trouble the kids would face at school later on.  While there would be other kids with short names, there would be the TamBrahm kids with names long enough to keep the teachers going into a tizzy because every TamBrahm name is nothing short of a tongue twister in itself.  While girls would sport names like Anandhabhairavi Venkatakrishnan, Tripurasundari Ramasundaram and Meenambal Jambunathan (to name a few), the boys would not be far behind with names like Venkatasubramanian Panchapakeshan or Janakiraman Vaidyanathan or Kothandaraman Sambasadashivam.  I’ve always been of the opinion that TamBrahm names should be allowed in spelling bee contests.  That would give things a whole new spin with these TamBrahm names stretching like freeways in the Land of Oz. 
Like I said before, preparations for the naming ceremony start well in advance – read the day before or a few days before the actual ceremony.  Since the newborn baby and the new mom take up residence in the baby’s maternal grandparents’ home for a few weeks after delivery, the naming ceremony usually takes place at the maternal grandparents’ home.  The grandparents and immediate relatives (read about half a dozen chitappas, chittis, mamas, mamis, athais and what have you – virtually the whole family, that is) would be busy procuring items on the list given to them by the priest. 
As with all TamBrahm ceremonies, the naming ceremony too is conducted in the mornings.  The priest would arrive with his entourage – a whole succession of pot-bellied, unshaven men.  Some sight, eh ?  That too, early in the morning.  Now all these priests would be clad in dhotis which, at one point of time, a few years back, were white in color.  After many washes, each one’s dhoti would be a different shade, ranging from off white to yellow and spots of red (thanks to the turmeric and kumkum – what were you thinking) to off white with streaks of brown (how that happens I know not and am not sure I want to, either).  This whole entourage would then sit around cross legged and start calling for random items for the said ceremony.  Some of the items that they call for would not have been on the original shopping list given by the head priest and there would be a mad rush among the people at home, to procure that particular item.  This is a rite of passage, per se, in any given TamBrahm function.  The priests, in the meantime, would request the people in the house for drinks.  Milk based ones, people.  Not what you’re thinking.  But that’s complex enough.  There needs to be a specialized priest barista in every household because if one priest asks for kaapi (coffee), the other priest will ask for tea and the third one might well ask for Bournvita and the fourth for Horlicks.  There will also be variations to the coffee, tea or whatever else is on offer – with regard to the milk or the sugar or some such.  I remember one such priest who once came home for some function and asked for coffee with cow’s milk.  I really can’t remember whether anyone actually went looking for a cow.  Thank the lord he did not ask for goat’s milk, sheep’s milk or better still, camel milk.  If they are that particular, they should carry their own animals around, to be milked at their convenience. 
While all this is happening in the living room, the new mom would usually be hustled into bath and out of it.  Hustled because she would invariably be groggy eyed, if baby has been particularly helpful the night before in keeping her awake and here would be a whole posse of relatives asking her if she wants a yellow sari with a red border or a blue sari with a pink border and such questions which would positively sound so inane at that point in the new mom’s life, where all she wants and needs right then is a good couple of hours sleep.  During Macadamia’s naming ceremony, I remember feeling so groggy and sleepy (and yes, little Macadamia had been tremendously helpful the night before) that had I been sitting down, I probably would have gone right off to sleep sitting in front of a whole load of guests, with the priests hollering mantras and chants like there was no tomorrow.  I anyway had a rather stoned look on my face and in all probability, I’d have given the term “out cold” a whole new meaning.
After some initial prayers and mantra chanting, the father is handed a big brass plate (bigger the plate the better for the father – I’ll explain why later) and asked to place it on his lap.  There is a lot of raw rice spread out on this plate and usually, the ladies in the house, at that given moment, behave as though inspiration just struck them.  They start to play this weird game that looks and sounds like the Chinese Whispers that I play with the kids at school.  One mami or one of the grandmothers standing right next to the father will start it off by behaving like Archimedes did in the bathtub when he discovered the Theory of Displacement.  The body language of the lady in question would scream “Eureka” and she would hustle and bustle and whisper something to the lady next to her.  No – before you start wondering, let me clarify that she behaves like an Archimedes in a Kancheevaram sari and the blingy blings.  She does not (thank the lord) take her clothes off and run around shouting “Eureka”. That lady would suddenly look all wise and sprout a halo around her head and say something to the lady standing next to her and so it would go, until it reached the last lady in the chain.  The last lady in the chain would rush off into the other room as though Mt.Vesuvius was about to erupt in all its glory any second and would rush back with a piece of cloth.  This piece of cloth invariably will follow the same line of progression along the mamis, but the other way around until it ends in the hands of the lady that started the game of Chinese Whispers.  She would then, rather ceremoniously, spread this piece of cloth onto the brass plate which, by now, would be resting rather precariously in the lap of the newly minted father. 
The head priest will then ask the father to take the newborn baby from whoever is holding the bundle (of joy or noise or peace – depends on the situation at that point of time) and ask him to place the baby on the brass plate.  Ah ha ! Now begins the fun !!
Many new fathers who are not used to holding their newborn baby do have a lot of fun at this juncture in the ceremony.  Not only does he try to look as though he has virtually grown up holding a newborn baby (huh ??!!) but he also has to balance that large brass plate on his lap without toppling the whole thing over.  Babies are babies and they do what they naturally do when they are newborns – they squirm, they wiggle, they flail and if it is indeed the dad’s lucky day, apart from all those, they also choose that very time to display their awesome lung power.  Talk about getting a newborn baby to lie on a brass plate and balancing the whole thing.  Are you asking yourself if it is difficult ?  Get an octopus and try to stuff it into a wire mesh bag – the body, the arms the whole octopus, without any part of the octopus sticking out of the bag.  Balancing a flailing, crying, red in the face newborn baby on a brass plate is just about as difficult or easy I guess and if that little octopus is all angry at the world for having disturbed its peaceful state of slumber or if hunger is all that’s on its mind right then, a huge “good luck” with an equally wide smile towards the father, would be just the thing to do.
If you think the balancing act ends with somehow fitting the baby on top of that plate in such a way that the baby’s arms and legs are not hanging out of the plate like one of those circus performers on a trapeze, think again.  TamBrahm customs are never ever that simple.  To convolute matters further for the new parents (read father because remember the moms are almost always doozy around this time due to lack of sleep and sheer exhaustion) he now has to lift the entire brass plate, baby and all, up and whisper the baby’s name three times in his / her ear.  Another reason to keep those baby names short, eh ? 
First the newly minted parents (or parent the second / third time around – it doesn’t really matter – things are just as confusing as ever) whisper the baby’s name three times and then the whole clan lines up to whisper the same name (obviously) into the baby’s ear three times.  Funny, come to think of it – even after having its name literally dinned into its head so early on in life, the number of times parents have to call out their kids’ names in order to get a response from them later on in life, is simply amazing.  One would think the name should have gotten imprinted in memory or branded in his/her head with having so many people repeat the name – that too three times over.  Apparently not ! 
After this is done (or maybe before the name whispering ceremony – I’m not quite sure), the priest mixes up ghee (clarified butter) and honey in a bowl.   He then asks the father to take off the ring on his finger and dip the ring into the ghee honey concoction in the bowl.  I do remember watching out to see if this was a traditional gold polish of sorts but apparently it was not.  Now the father has to feed that ghee-honey concoction to the baby.  Now show me a baby that does not like something sweet.  All babies do.  Quite naturally, when a baby is literally being spoon fed (in this case, ring fed) honey, the baby is sure to open it mouth for more.  Logic, right ? 
According to the TamBrahm mamis, this is no logic vogic.  It is something to be massively excited about, every single time they stand witness to a naming ceremony, and trust me when I say this, when they see that baby opening its mouth for more of the sweet stuff, the mamis and mamas break into this super excited chatter that makes it seem as though they’ve seen all seven wonders of the world, at one go.  It is that expression of wonder, of jaw dropping delight and an expression of utter enchantment and satisfaction – all rolled into one.  One look at their rapturous faces and one would be convinced that feeding something sweet to a baby and getting baby to eat it is nothing less than the eighth wonder of the world.  If their expression turns out that way to babies eating and downing normal food without spitting it out on the mom or dad’s face, it is totally understandable.  But sweet stuff – isn’t that the stuff one finds it difficult to get babies out of ??  Then why do the mamis look so incredibly thrilled as though they’ve just seen Brad Pitt walk around nude on a beach ?  Sigh ! Just one of those things to which there is no answer, I guess ! 
Once the father has fed the ghee honey concoction to the baby three times, the priest signals that the mother can now feed the baby.  I mean, they just announce that the baby now needs to be breastfed.  Yeah – just what moms need.  A permissive signal from the priest to breastfeed the newborn babies – Ye God !  Of course, the priests ‘milk’ the moment (sorry for the pun – was not intended but then puns often get the better of me rather unknowingly) and announce it loud enough for the whole world to hear “ok now you can go and feed the baby”.  Thanks for that because that is often misconstrued by the mamis there as a cue to start talking about the breastfeeding issues that the new mom is having !  .  I remember thinking at Macadamia’s naming ceremony that the priests do forget to put something on that shopping list.  A megaphone ! 
Another thing I noticed during Macadamia’s naming ceremony was the fact that I was not allowed to take part in any of rituals other than whispering her name three times.  Reason given then was that I was still “impure” because postpartum bleeding takes a few days to completely stop.  This did strike me as odd because a woman goes through a lot through nine months of pregnancy and then the rigors of labour and delivery.  It doesn’t stop there.  She is still going through a massive adjustment phase in terms of learning to care for her newborn, handling sleepless nights, latching issues and what have you.  Basically, she has a lot on her plate – both parents do, for that matter.  Also, the very thing that provided nourishment for the baby in utero now has her sidelined from rituals associated with her baby ?  Somehow, to me, that does not make sense at all.  Being told that she needs to stand aside and not be a part of the rituals is yet again, in my books, quite insensitive and illogical.  But then again, I’m a rebel and when I see something at odds, I say it.  Period ! (did not intend that pun too, yet again).
So now we have a little newborn, who has had his / her name dinned into his / her head a gazillion times by the elders in the family and we also have a newborn who has had his / her first taste of sugar.  So we leave the newborn in that happy place for now, all tizzy and dizzy from the sugar high, yelling for more and the right now hapless new parents, quite unsure of what all that ruckus is about.
 
 
 
 



 

 

15 July, 2014

Sexism - See it. Say it. Stop it.

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It all started with the outlet tube of the washing machine snapping open at the joint, a couple of weeks back.  The existing tape had to be removed, the outlet pipes fitted together again properly and taped up securely with insulation tape.  Once I was done repairing the pipe, casual conversation led to me saying that small electrical repairs around the house like repairing plugs, changing fuse wires etc were things I used to do at home, during my college days and how it used to leave my grandmother rather horrified.
I also used to repair leaky taps at home by changing washers and the like.  I’ve used a proper saw on wood to build something once and these habits of mine were always a bone of contention with my grandmother.  Her comment to my mom always used to be “these are not things girls should be doing.  It is very unfeminine for a girl to be repairing stuff, sawing wood etc”.  
Yet another incident that this brought to the fore was when one of my aunts used to repeatedly tell me not to sit with one knee over the other.  Apparently, if girls sat that way, it was a sign of disrespect.  Boys could sit anyway they wanted, they could scratch themselves anywhere they wanted, in plain view of anyone around and it was perfectly acceptable.  But girls sitting with one knee over the other knee was an absolute NO !
During my college days, I also used to paint with water colors and I did notice, even then, that painting did not evoke any negative response from anyone at home.  It was seen as something creative, something feminine. 
This whole concept is worth a serious think – “What does one mean when one says this is not something girls are supposed to do or not supposed to do ?”
Growing up in a patriarchal society that is India (it was and it still very much is a patriarchal society), girls, right from a young age were taught to conform and obey, no questions asked.  If it was someone like me, questions would be raised only to be shot down and muzzled.  Answers were never forthcoming and I now realize that I never had any of my questions answered because the elders in question simply did not know.  Customs, ideas, norms, habits were given the title of “tradition” and simply passed on from one generation to the next, with no one questioning the basis or the logic thereto.
As a child, I came in for a lot of flak from the elders in the family for playing cricket with the boys.  Apparently, it was something “girls simply would not and should not do”.  I didn’t get the logic behind that statement then and I don’t get it now. 
During the long summer holidays, a whole load of us used to get together in the afternoons to play card games or board games.  Inevitably, there would be a lot of noise and ruckus and I remember one grandpa in the building complaining to some of the grandmoms about their grand daughters making noise and how it was so “un girl like” to do so.  That there used to be boys too, creating an equal ruckus alongwith us, was completely sidelined – almost as if it was considered natural for boys to behave that way but not for girls.
It’s been a few decades now and the sad fact is that things remain pretty much the same.  Attitudes are the same, mind-sets, outlooks and approaches pretty much remain similar.
Women should not have to protest, should not have to hold up banners, should not have to walk around naked holding placards, should not have to burn bras to be heard and taken notice of.  When a woman speaks, it is as much her right to do so as it is any man’s out there and when she does speak, giving her an ear is something that needs to come naturally to the public just as they would, if it was a man speaking.
Being a woman has never been easy anywhere in the world, especially so in patriarchal societies like India.  Come to think of it, a woman is pretty much doomed the day those XX chromosomes decide to hang out together.  That is essentially when the struggle begins – a struggle for life, a struggle for existence, a struggle for self-identity, a struggle to have her voice heard, a struggle to have her opinions taken seriously.  For a woman, life gets down to being a struggle to simply survive with her senses intact, for, she comes into a world, a society which is biased and inclined towards heeding the XY chromosomes over the XXs. 
Despite rampant cries for change, the cultural identity of an Indian woman is still looked upon, first and foremost, as being a wife, a mother.  The traditional female identity in India still pretty much places a woman in a very restrictive environment.  Education too, even now, is seen by society, not as much as a tool towards an independent woman but more as a means to improve their chances of finding a husband of a higher social status.
Irrespective of life in a village or a city, women are still expected to adhere to traditional expectations.  In many families, it is still considered necessary for a woman to touch her husband’s feet as a mark of respect, she is still expected to wear on herself, accessories that “mark” her as a married woman – her mangalsutra, her sindoor, her toerings.  Does society show a shift towards expecting something on similar lines from men, now that we call ourselves an advancing society ?  Sadly, the answer still remains in the negative.
Religion is still used to reinforce cultural stereotypes of feminity.  Sita is still embodied as the perfect Indian wife who sacrifices just about anything and everything at the drop of a hat to follow her husband and does what is asked of her – no questions asked.  I still remember the press exemplifying Narendra Modi’s wife as a perfect example of an exemplary Indian wife – one who still prays for her husband and sacrifices her comforts for his benefit because she’s still married to him – unheeding of the fact that theirs was a dead relationship the day he chose to walk away from it.  That is just one example of the media doing its duty towards reinforcing stereotypes, at a time when women all over the world are trying to break free of typecasts and labels.  
The media is often found saying that sexism is on the decrease now as compared to what it was a few decades back.  There are countless articles which say the lines between male dominance and female submissiveness has blurred and that there definitely is a grey area which is growing.  Well, as things stand in society today, what we see is probably not the institutionalized sexism that one used to witness a few decades back.  There are no professions from which women are barred or not allowed to practice.  What we see in today’s world is sexism in a more subtle form. 
It rears its head every single time a female faces catcalls and sexist comments as she walks down a road.  It rears its head time and again when male colleagues attribute just about anything and everything about you to it being “that time of the month”.  It rears its head every single time men deem it fit to make jokes about women not being able to do things which society has always considered “macho”, driving for instance.  It rears its head every single time the so-called “educated” men don’t think twice about making statements like “a woman’s place is in the kitchen, making rotis and cooking for her family”.
Sexist attitudes are long gone, is what some people say.  It is something that used to belong in the previous century, said someone, the other day.
Unfortunately, that is not quite the case.  Not quite.  It is still very much out there. 
We still live in a society which defines woman-ness or feminity in terms of actions or dress codes.  We still live in a society that permits and makes sanctions for gender based jokes in workplaces or schools, we still live in a society which recently ruled that family owned businesses do not have to cover contraception in their workers’ health insurance.  We still live in a society where male members in the Senate and the Supreme Court get to decide on whether women should have control over their own bodies.
Sexist ideologies still continue to seep their way into several issues in society, thus affecting and twisting perceptions and public attitudes.  Sexism does exist even today and this is an issue that needs to be at the forefront in terms of raising awareness, not something to be denied or swept under the carpet or deemed as something that’s long gone away.

It hasn’t.